Creating Success from Failures

Self-awareness leads to success

Being Self-Aware Includes:

• Evaluating yourself
• Managing your emotions
• Being mindful

To become self-aware

1. Be mindful of your thoughts.
2. Be mindful of your body language.
   • 93% of our communication has nothing to do with our words.
3. Be mindful of your judgments.

Focus on the present

“Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future, but today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present.” – Bil Keane – American Cartoonist.

Focus on the present

1. Appreciate your failures for what you’ve learned through them.
2. Reflect on past mistakes to gain insights and learn who you want to become.
3. Apply what you’ve learned to the present moment.

Managing emotions

1. Self-regulation – learn to self-regulate your emotions.
2. Discomfort – Become comfortable with discomfort.
   • “Be willing to be uncomfortable. Be comfortable being uncomfortable. It may get tough, but it’s a small price to pay for living a dream.” – Peter McWilliams – American Author
3. Optimism – Stop discouragement in its track with optimism.

Owning your mistakes

Failure is not fatal!

Find your personal strengths and choose to believe in them.

• Goals – what do you want to achieve?
• Challenges – what might be in your way?
• Stop – how are you holding yourself back?
• Start – what can you do today?

Beating the blame game

Don’t place blame on others.

Blame is when everyone’s trying to dodge accountability.

1. Examine your motives to see if you’re trying to avoid responsbility.
2. Be the solution – “Be the change you want to see in the world” – Mahatma Gandhi
3. Don’t fixate on your failures

Managing expectations

Inaccurate expectations set you up for disappointment.

1. Clearly define your goals. Use SMART goals.
2. Avoid making assumptions that affect expectations.
3. Clear and effective communication creates reliable expectations.

Well-being is priority

Well-Being
Being comfortable, healthy, and happy.

1. Put your values into action.
   • Make a list of your top 10 values
   • Put them in order
   • Circle the top 3 values – those will motivate you
2. Be your own best friend to prioritize your well-being.
   • Write down words of affirmation

Learning to thrive

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” – Maya Angelou – American Poet.

Avoid burnout

1. To get through difficult times, maintain your positive energy.
   • Be aware of your thoughts and emotions.
2. In tough times, focus on what you want to accomplish.
   • Develop SMART goals.
3. Always look for ways you can continue learning and developing.
   • Consider finding a mentor or coach whom you trust.

Developing resilience

1. Keep going, even when you’re uncomfortable.
2. Keep your energy up by taking care of yourself.
3. Even in times of stress, embrace change.

Maintain a growth mindset

Fixed Mindset
Believing your qualities are permanent, carved in stone.

Growth Mindset
Believing you can cultivate new qualities through effort.

• Includes self-confidence & tenacity
• Helps you stay intentional in your behaviors
• Knows and believes that failure is part of success
• Honors the past as a way to learn

Choose a positive attitude.

Preparedness is key

“Success occurs when opportunity meets preparation.” – Zig Ziglar – American Author.

Being prepared is your best defense against dobut.

Preparation -> Self-Discipline -> Good Habits

Preparing for surprises enables you to stay focused.

Networking to build confidence

80% of professionals said networking was a major component of success.

1. Start by making connections through people you already know.
2. Use social media strategically and whenever possible.
3. Be prepared

Prepare for Networking

• Know what your goals are
• Know how to pitch yourself
• Know what your follow-up will be

Trusting your decisions

• Trusting your decisions helps you grow beyond past failures.
• STAR
  • Situation
  • Task
  • Action
  • Result
• Try reflecting without being too harsh on yourself.

Taking action

• Take action even when you’re afraid.
• Start with small stepes to deal with fear gradually.
• Don’t be paralyzed by fear; connect with other people.